Loving the toad

We as women dream of meeting the “perfect guy” at some point in our lives. We even imagine the perfect meeting, the lady is just an ordinary Jane and Mr. “Perfect” well lets just say he’s perfect. Eyes meet and instantly you connect, the chemistry is too much and too intense to ignore. He knows you are the one and vice versa, he showers you with sweet little gifts, cooks for you, gives you massages which end up with the two of you in bed (you are so compatible). Mr. perfect not only has eyes for you but he also knows what to say and when, he even finishes your sentences.

Question is can you read his mind and tell him what he needs to hear all the time. We as women tend to expect too much from men that when an almost Mr. perfect, yes I said almost because no one is perfect, stands right in front of you, you will not notice because his jacket doesn’t go well with his jeans. It’s like that Sunday school story of the woman who was promised a visit from God and when he showed up as a homeless man she chased him away simply because he was messing up her beautifully primed yard. Only to find out later that it was actually God but it was too late. It is difficult for most women to find their “perfect” man because they judge man according to their physical attributes. Lets be honest how many good looking guys do you know that have all of the above things.

What matters the most is what is in the inside, that makes him the right guy for you but we never get to see that part because we don’t give ourselves a chance to get to know the “physically less than perfect” man. Lets face it most men are to die for on the outside but a disappointment when it comes to what matters the most, the saying, “don’t judge a book by its cover must have come up from that”. The type of men we read about in Mills and Boon just don’t exist. There can ever be only one Brad Pitt and Will Smith.

What we don’t realise is that, the ones that we run away from are the same men that will love, respect and be loyal to us. Ladies while you are busy chasing Mr. gorgeous from down the street, Mr. perfect from next door is getting away. Lets not even think about “cutting your own diamond” because you can never teach an old dog new tricks. Remember it takes a diamond to cut another.